The modern cult of self esteem fails to answer the question: why am I valuable? Why am I significant? Why do I matter? We aim to raise children (and adults) who love themselves because it's the right thing to do, not because they are lovable in any way.
Try to be lovable. It will work out so much better.
Mokalus of Borg
PS - I don't know if I'm lovable.
PPS - I guess the test should be how many people love you. I haven't counted.