TV or movie villains often threaten the loved ones of a hero, demanding something in return. They sometimes assert that "their fate is in your hands" or some similar idea, claiming that the hero is in "total control" of what happens next. I would find that hard to swallow as a hero. The villain has made the threat, the villain has their own finger on the trigger and makes the decision to follow through on the threat, but is taking zero responsibility for that action. Not that I expect villains to be morally responsible, but I keep expecting to run into a more rational hero who calls them on their nonsense.
Mokalus of Borg
PS - Then again, such a hero wouldn't seem very heroic sometimes.
PPS - Maybe that's why it's never written that way.